A Guide for Families
Supporting a loved one as they prepare to move into retirement living is a journey often marked
by emotion, reflection, and many important conversations. It’s a significant life transition—not
only for the individual making the move, but also for their family and close friends.
As daunting as it may seem at first, with a thoughtful and compassionate approach, this chapter
can offer comfort, renewed connection, and a sense of security and well-being. Below is a
practical, heartfelt guide to help families navigate this path together.
1. Begin the Conversation Early—and Keep It Open
Talking about retirement living is rarely something to tackle in a single conversation. Instead,
think of it as an ongoing dialogue—one that evolves over time. Listen with care to your loved
one’s hopes, concerns, and uncertainties. Rather than focusing on what they may be leaving
behind, try to frame the discussion around enhancing their lifestyle, supporting their
independence, and ensuring peace of mind.
Avoid applying pressure. If they’re hesitant, trying too hard to persuade them may only make
them dig in their heels. Reassure them that this isn’t about giving something up, but about
gaining something new.
At Solva, we regularly help families explore the many reasons why people want to move, and
the times when people need to. If you’d like a friendly, no-obligation chat, feel free to email us at
Ottawa@solvaseniorliving.ca.
2. Include Your Loved One in the Decision
Whenever possible, involve your loved one in the decision-making process. Encourage them to
join in on tours, attend information sessions, and speak with community staff. Invite them to
share what’s most important—whether it’s the feel of the suite, the menu, or the social calendar.
The more they feel included and respected, the more confident and comfortable they’ll be when
the time comes to move.
3. Visit a Few Communities—Together
We always recommend that family members do some initial exploring first, narrowing down the
choices to a few suitable options. Once you have a shortlist, visit the communities together with
your loved one. Too many tours can feel overwhelming and make the process more confusing
than it needs to be.
While visiting, observe the atmosphere: Are the residents engaged? Do the staff appear kind,
professional, and attentive? Can your loved one see themselves enjoying life there?
Make it a positive, shared experience. And remember, Solva is here to guide you every step of
the way—simply ring us at 613-421-6073. We will help you narrow down your search and find
the right homes that match your loved ones needs, preferences and budget.
4. Lend a Hand with Downsizing and Moving
Sorting through a lifetime of belongings can be emotional. Approach this part of the journey with
patience and sensitivity. Rather than focusing on what to part with, help your loved one choose
what items will bring the most comfort and familiarity to their new home.
A lovely idea is to create a memory book—take photos of cherished items that won’t be moving
with them, and jot down the stories behind them. It can be a wonderful keepsake for the whole
family.
Consider enlisting the help of a senior move manager or professional organiser to make things
a bit easier.
5. Make the New Space Feel Like Home
Personal touches make all the difference. Whether it’s a favourite throw, treasured family
photographs, a well-loved armchair, or a special lamp, these little comforts help a new space
feel familiar and welcoming.
Let your loved one be part of setting up their room so it reflects their personality and
preferences. It’s not just about furnishing a suite—it’s about creating a home.
6. Stay Close During the Early Days
The initial weeks after the move can feel a bit unsettling. Be present. Pop in for a visit, phone
regularly, or set up video calls if you’re further away. Encourage your loved one to join in
activities or explore the community, but let them find their own pace.
Celebrate the small wins—joining a new class, making a new friend, or simply having a good
day. These moments matter more than you might think.
7. Work in Partnership with the Team
The staff at retirement communities are there not only to provide care, but also to support
meaningful daily life. Share your loved one’s routines, preferences, or any health matters early
on. Ask questions and stay in touch.
When families and community teams work together, the transition becomes smoother and more
personalised—and your loved one will feel all the more supported.
8. Focus on What’s Gained
Help shift the focus from what’s changing to what’s being gained: no more housework or
maintenance worries, home-cooked meals prepared daily, care when needed, and the chance
to meet new people and enjoy new experiences.
Remind your loved one of all the things they’ll no longer have to worry about—and all the things
they’ll now have time to enjoy.
9. Be Patient—It Takes Time
Adjusting to any big life change is a process. It’s perfectly natural for there to be moments of
doubt, sadness, or second thoughts. Continue to offer steady support and kindness.
Over time, many residents not only adjust but truly thrive—rediscovering old passions, forming
friendships, and feeling safe, social, and at ease.
In Closing
Supporting a loved one as they move into retirement living is one of the most meaningful ways
you can show care. With empathy, patience, and a collaborative spirit, families can help
transform a potentially stressful change into an empowering new beginning.
This next chapter can be one of comfort, safety, friendship, and joy—and with the right support,
it very often is.